Unlocking Your Potential: A Conversation on Coaching Dynamics with Sharon Jedd
This episode presents an insightful dialogue between Kristin Crockett and Sharon Jedd, two distinguished life/business coaches, who explore the intricacies and transformative potential of coaching. Sharon recounts her personal journey, which was marked by a significant transition from a successful career in direct sales to the world of coaching. She reflects on her decade of feeling lost and the pivotal role that mentorship played in her discovery of self-worth and the importance of a positive mindset. This foundational narrative sets the stage for a broader discussion on the critical aspects of coaching, including the necessity of self-love and the recognition of one's own value.
As the conversation unfolds, Kristin and Sharon delve into the essential elements to consider when seeking a coach, emphasizing the significance of aligning values and establishing trust in the coaching relationship. They elucidate that coaching transcends the mere provision of answers; it is a collaborative process that empowers clients to uncover their own strengths and overcome personal limitations. The speakers advocate for a coaching approach that nurtures self-discovery and encourages individuals to challenge negative self-perceptions. This emphasis on fostering a supportive environment underlines the transformative potential that effective coaching can yield.
In the latter part of the episode, both speakers underscore the virtue of integrity within the coaching profession. They articulate that true coaching involves guiding clients with honesty and authenticity, ensuring that the relationship is built on mutual respect and understanding. The episode concludes with a powerful reminder for listeners to invest in themselves and to embrace the journey of self-improvement with an open heart, as they embark on the path toward realizing their aspirations and potential.
Takeaways:
- The podcast emphasizes the profound impact of coaching on individual transformation and overall life satisfaction.
- Listeners are encouraged to explore the concept of self-love as a foundational element in personal growth and coaching.
- The importance of hiring a coach who aligns with one's values and beliefs is highlighted throughout the discussion.
- The speakers share their experiences of overcoming challenges through coaching and the necessity of rewiring one's mindset for success.
- Integrity is portrayed as a critical virtue in coaching relationships, affecting both coaches and clients alike.
- The conversation concludes with a call to action for listeners to invest in themselves, recognizing their inherent worth and potential.
About Sharon Jedd:
Sharon Jedd - Empowering Belief Coaching (Clarity, Confidence & Courage)
Sharon “Amazing Grace” Jedd is a dynamic transformational coach whose remarkable journey from adversity to achievement continues to inspire individuals and leaders worldwide. Once feeling lost and uncertain, Sharon made the bold decision to step beyond her comfort zone, embracing change with courage and turning personal pain into a powerful purpose.
Her story is more than a comeback—it’s a masterclass in resilience, strategy, and reinvention. Through unwavering dedication, sharp business insight, and a deep commitment to mindset mastery, Sharon has built a life and career rooted in impact and empowerment.
Today, she is a highly sought-after coach, speaker, and mentor, known for helping others break through self-limiting beliefs and unlock their full potential. Sharon’s transformational approach equips individuals and teams with the tools to elevate performance, lead with purpose, and thrive through change.
Her journey is living proof that greatness isn't defined by where you start—it's shaped by the courage to grow, the discipline to rise, and the grace to lead.
Transcript
Foreign and welcome to the courageous destiny build a business and life you love podcast.
Speaker A:I am your hostess, Kristen Crockett and I am interviewing such a lovely lady today who is a fellow life coach, Sharon Jed.
Speaker A:She owns a business called empowering belief Coaching.
Speaker A:She is just a woman of faith and such a dynamic individual.
Speaker A:And today we are going to have a conversation about coaching.
Speaker A:We'll talk about, you know, some different things to look out for and, and add value to you today.
Speaker A:But we'll also share with you maybe some tips about what to look for when hiring a coach.
Speaker A:So we wanted to be able to come on and have an honest conversation about that and be of service to you all today.
Speaker A:Thank you, Sharon, for coming and being on my show.
Speaker A:How are you doing?
Speaker B:Doing great, Kristin.
Speaker B:Thank you so much for having me today.
Speaker B:I really appreciate it.
Speaker B:The world of coaching, as you know it is phenomenal for the transformations that we see in our clients and how their lives are so much better because of it.
Speaker A:I can't agree more.
Speaker A:And can you share with me, you know, your why, you know, why did you become a coach?
Speaker A:Why did you decide to become a coach?
Speaker A:I know that you had said something that really resonated with me just a few minutes ago that your friends and colleagues said that you were amazing greats, once was lost but now is found.
Speaker A:And I found that so powerful.
Speaker A:So tell me, tell me how, how this found you, how coaching found you.
Speaker B:Yes, you know, it was a transition in my life.
Speaker B:I was in Mary Kay and I was a director and so I had that background.
Speaker B:So when I decided to go into coaching, it was an easy transition for me because I was already, you know, helping people.
Speaker B:But with coaching, it rather than having a product such as cosmetics, now, the product is the mindset of a person.
Speaker B:And so with my journey, there was a period of about a decade, I would say, where I felt lost and so I didn't know how to get unstuck.
Speaker B:I would hear people talk and say, do this, do this, do this.
Speaker B:But you know what?
Speaker B:I thought I need the action.
Speaker B:I need the steps, the actual steps on how to do this.
Speaker B:I was so keyed into what other people thought of me and so my self worth was based on what they thought.
Speaker B:And that wasn't, that wasn't a cool thing to do for me.
Speaker B:And so once I learned through the mentors and coaches that I had that it's what we have between our, the six inches here.
Speaker B:And so when I discovered that, it's what I think of me, what God thinks of Me.
Speaker B:Everything turned around, and I was thankful for having the coaches and mentors in my life, because that made a huge difference.
Speaker B:I was lost, just stumbling around out there and not happy.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And then there was just this shift that came along.
Speaker B:Sometimes there are events that happen in your life, and you just then re.
Speaker B:I relied on God, and I said, okay, now what here?
Speaker B:What am I going to do?
Speaker B:And then coaching came to mind.
Speaker B:I took my coaching accreditation, and I thought, oh, my gosh, I've been doing this all along, just in a form of consulting, where coaching is a little.
Speaker B:A bit different.
Speaker B:And so I found my true identity.
Speaker B:I found who I was, and I connect that all back to what scripture says about us and what God says about us.
Speaker B:And so it excites me to be able to share this with other men or women who feel lost and stuck.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And it's.
Speaker B:It's based on what we think about ourselves.
Speaker B:And when we.
Speaker B:When we give out love to people, it returns to us tenfold.
Speaker B:There's no question on that.
Speaker B:And when you're focusing on that, first of all, you love yourself.
Speaker B:I had to learn how to love myself, which was difficult at first because I thought, well, what do they mean by that?
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:I feel like a failure.
Speaker B:I thought, okay, show me that one.
Speaker B:Teach me the steps.
Speaker B:And so I learned that.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And I will tell you, on the journey, it's not like you flip a switch and all of a sudden you're.
Speaker B:It's miraculously there.
Speaker B:No, it.
Speaker B:You do the.
Speaker B:You do these recovery steps over and over again because you're creating a new habit, a new thought process.
Speaker B:And so it takes time.
Speaker B:And, you know, the journey is forever.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:It's.
Speaker B:It doesn't end with just one thing, because life is a progression.
Speaker B:And so it's.
Speaker B:I always think of it as when a child is born a baby, and, you know, they're so dependent on mom and dad, you know, when they're first born.
Speaker B:And then they grow and they learn to walk.
Speaker B:They take their first few steps, they fall, they stumble, and, you know, sometimes.
Speaker B:Most of the time I've seen is they don't cry.
Speaker B:They just kind of get up and look around.
Speaker B:They wonder, and they try it again.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And I thought, I like that mindset, you know, of a little toddler.
Speaker B:And then when you teach them how to tie their shoes, do they get it right the first time?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker B:It's through practice, over and over and over again.
Speaker B:And I think somewhere in the journey of life, we've lost that Perspective, you.
Speaker A:Know, I can't, I can't agree more.
Speaker A:Like, one of the things I'd like to break out just from some of the things that you just said, one is this concept of self love.
Speaker A:I don't want to skirt over it because really that's what had me find coaching as well.
Speaker A:So it was, I had, I was building my life around what other people thought of me or what I should or shouldn't do.
Speaker A:And I was really living life from the outside and what those expectations were versus really even understanding what my own inner guidance was and what I even really wanted.
Speaker A:And I remember the first time somebody introduced me to the concept of self, love, love.
Speaker A:And I, I remember thinking, I'm like, what are we talking about here?
Speaker A:Like, I had no idea.
Speaker A:I didn't know what it meant.
Speaker A:I didn't know if I went and I typed it in on Google, I'd be met with some images I didn't want to see.
Speaker A:You know, I know, you know, but it really.
Speaker A:What happened in my journey when I was first working with my coach, as I started to uncover all of these things about myself, about who I was and the way the world works, and I'm like, holy moly, like, this isn't even true.
Speaker A:Some of these things that I thought about myself weren't even true.
Speaker A:And the things that I thought about myself wasn't even what other people saw in me.
Speaker A:Other people saw, you know, love.
Speaker A:They saw lots of beautiful things, lots of possibility.
Speaker A:I wasn't seeing myself that way.
Speaker A:And it was habit, you know, So I love that you mentioned habit.
Speaker A:Right?
Speaker A:It was habit.
Speaker A:And so I, I want to encourage the listeners today that when it comes to self love, if you get nothing else from this, today, it's start the journey, design what that would mean for you, what self love means to you and how you bring that more and more in your life.
Speaker A:Get curious about it, start to feel, wonder about that.
Speaker A:So thank you for that because that's, you know, honestly, that's part of what led me to be a coach because I was like, oh my gosh, if I can shift this around and I can learn how to talk to myself differently and I can pivot my mindset when I'm not and learn how to discern when I'm moving myself forward in a loving way or when I'm moving away from that, I, I can rewrite all that stuff.
Speaker A:I can rewrite, you know, I can rewrite all that stuff.
Speaker A:I can create new habit, I can design a new way of thinking and Once I knew I could do it with me, I knew I could help other people do it too.
Speaker B:Exactly, exactly.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Because I just felt like there was no hope.
Speaker B:And there is hope and yes, very much so.
Speaker A:And just because it's.
Speaker A:One of my favorite things to say is just because it's been that way 10,111 ways in the past doesn't mean it has to be that way right now.
Speaker A:Like, it can be whatever you create.
Speaker A:And that was a freeing thing to me.
Speaker A:It didn't matter how much evidence from the past I had to support, you know, that I could or couldn't do things.
Speaker A:I could actually create new evidence and train my unconscious mind.
Speaker A:I always say I'm training my unconscious mind to, to take action.
Speaker A:Right when we get habit, we train our unconscious mind, which is really cool.
Speaker A:That's when it becomes easy.
Speaker B:Yes, yes.
Speaker B:And you know, I always go back to, I always like to give this example of, you know, when things go wrong.
Speaker B:You know, when I first was learning this self love.
Speaker B:And then I would go, you know, because it was a habit, you go back to beating yourself up mentally.
Speaker B:And then so I shifted that.
Speaker B:And so when things don't go as well as I wanted them to, or I just say, gosh, that didn't work.
Speaker B:So let's see, what direction can I go, what road can I take to alter this, make it better, etc.
Speaker B:Etc.
Speaker B:I don't even go to the point of I'm not good.
Speaker B:See, I can't do it anything like that.
Speaker B:I just say, what's next?
Speaker B:You know, what didn't work and how can I fix it?
Speaker A:And that's what it is.
Speaker A:What's my next move?
Speaker B:Yes, yes.
Speaker A:One of my other favorite one is, ah, who cares?
Speaker A:Let me try again.
Speaker B:You know, this is a quote from Mary Kay Ash with Mary Kay Cosmetics.
Speaker B:And she always told us, and I never forgot this, and she said, you can do everything wrong, but if you have the right attitude, you still will succeed.
Speaker A:I, I can't agree more.
Speaker A:You know, today it was.
Speaker A:I hope I get this right.
Speaker A:So I was, I was at a, a group today.
Speaker A:Engaging Speakers is one of my favorite groups that I attend.
Speaker A:So if you're out there listening, it's, it's one of the places that I learned how to speak my way to more business.
Speaker A:So I'm going to give him a little plug right now.
Speaker A:One, One of the gentlemen, One of the gentlemen was giving what was called a success nugget.
Speaker A:And I have a lot of respect for him.
Speaker A:He's Been in the industry for a long time, and he said it was a very simple success nugget.
Speaker A:He's like, see the good in others.
Speaker A:It was it.
Speaker A:See the good, say the good.
Speaker A:It was.
Speaker A:That was it.
Speaker A:So see the good in others and then say the good in others, you know, so if I see that you're an amazing coach, Right.
Speaker A:Who's faith based, and I can tell that you really care about people.
Speaker A:You're somebody that I would want to tell that to, because I see it and I want to say it, and I thought that was really such a great way to be, and I think that that helps with our attitude too.
Speaker A:Like when you said the Mary.
Speaker A:The reason why I thought about it was you saying the Mary Kay Ash quote.
Speaker A:Because our attitude is reflected by what we think, but we can create our thinking, and that's what people don't get.
Speaker A:Like, you're in control of that, you know?
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:And.
Speaker B:And the thing of it is, is nobody else is in control of how you think or how you feel.
Speaker B:That that is your.
Speaker B:Your motor, you know, inside of you.
Speaker B:You get to drive that and.
Speaker B:And into what direction?
Speaker B:Mm.
Speaker A:Now, I know you help a lot of people with.
Speaker A:With nutrition and emotional eating.
Speaker A:Is that correct?
Speaker B:No, it was.
Speaker B:I did a webinar on the emotional what.
Speaker B:What Feeding our mind.
Speaker B:Emotional nutrition is what I did.
Speaker A:Oh.
Speaker A:Oh.
Speaker B:Huh.
Speaker A:I love that.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And so that was so good because, you know, there's so much junk food out there.
Speaker B:We all know what it is.
Speaker B:We all eat it from time to time or whatever.
Speaker B:And is it good for us?
Speaker B:No, it isn't good for us.
Speaker B:And so same thing with our mind.
Speaker B:What are you feeding your mind?
Speaker B:Are you feeding it positive affirmations which I firmly believe in because that is carving a new path and wiring in your brain for.
Speaker B:Or are you feeding it junk food, meaning telling yourself that you're not any good.
Speaker B:It just won't work for you.
Speaker B:You're not going to amount to anything.
Speaker B:All those.
Speaker B:They're lies are what they are.
Speaker B:They are lies.
Speaker B:And so in my coaching, I help to dismantle that and.
Speaker B:And rewire my clients thinking to eliminate those thoughts.
Speaker B:Because you can, and I will tell you, once I learned how to do that for myself, the freedom that you have.
Speaker B:Oh, my gosh, the freedom.
Speaker B:Because when you are stuck in that mode, so to speak, you.
Speaker B:Your energy goes down.
Speaker B:You.
Speaker B:You look at life like it's a drag, it's a drudge.
Speaker B:And so you don't want to engage with.
Speaker B:But when all of that is rewired and your eyes are open to possibilities.
Speaker B:Well, look at this, look at this, look at this opportunity.
Speaker B:It is amazing the roads now that are open in the past and the journey that you can take because of rewiring that thinking with positive selft talk.
Speaker A:And I want to interrupt you here too because I think that so I, it's a game changer.
Speaker A:And when people go out there in the world to hire a coach to help them achieve success, something that they haven't achieved before, the chances are there's rewiring to do if you haven't gotten it before for some reason, you know, most likely unconscious.
Speaker A:You know, our unconscious mind can lead us away, you know, in action in other ways from the things in life that we want because it has habits, I like how you said of junk food, eating junk food, but it has habits of, you know, I, I, I'm the type of person who take, I hear it all the time.
Speaker A:I'm the type of person who takes this action.
Speaker A:I'm the type of person who does this.
Speaker A:I'm the type of person who does that.
Speaker A:Well, if you're not the type of person that does a thing that you want to do, you're not going to get what you want.
Speaker A:So rewiring is really critical.
Speaker A:And what's also critical to me and what's been very helpful to me and why I was so amazed after the first three months of working with my coach and working through these kinds of things and there's all kinds of different ways to do it, but I tripled my sales.
Speaker A:I lost my first 30 pounds, I got rid of a lot of the junk food and I went, holy cow, if I can do this, so can other people.
Speaker A:And then my heart exploded with the possibility of people not getting in their own way and not letting their mind get in their way of generating real results.
Speaker A:Like there was things that I just wouldn't do and I didn't know why I wouldn't do them.
Speaker A:Like I knew to do them.
Speaker A:I hear that all the time too.
Speaker A:Sure you hear that.
Speaker A:I know exactly what to do.
Speaker A:I just don't do it.
Speaker A:Well, you don't do it because your unconscious mind is limiting you.
Speaker A:It's stopping you from taking that action.
Speaker A:And to do that on that work on your own is kind of hard because it's a lot like looking in a mirror.
Speaker A:You're one inch from the mirror and you're trying to decide what you need to change in your mindset.
Speaker A:That's unconscious to you.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:It you Know, it's.
Speaker A:It's really difficult to do.
Speaker A:So having a coach can be incredibly valuable to help you uncover those blind spots.
Speaker A:And when you work with a coach, to me, and I know you agree with me on this, it's a sacred thing.
Speaker A:Like, it is a sacred relationship.
Speaker A:My clients trust me with things that, you know, I don't even know a lot of their families know.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:But it's all with that intention to uncover some of those blind spots.
Speaker A:Because when you do and you're aware and you expand your awareness now, you can really move forward powerfully, taking different actions than you wouldn't before.
Speaker A:And because you took the action, that's why you get the result.
Speaker B:Yes, that is correct.
Speaker B:And you know, when people, when people are stuck, you know, having a plan of action in front of them is so helpful.
Speaker B:In addition to the.
Speaker B:There, the fear there is very real.
Speaker B:So when you get clarity on what it is that you want to develop in your life, overcome in your life, do.
Speaker B:Now we have that plan we're going to put into action.
Speaker B:And so many of my clients and myself as well, were very fearful.
Speaker B:And so I had to find the confidence to do that.
Speaker B:And so in.
Speaker B:In coaching, you know, you.
Speaker B:I don't care how little the step is that my clients took.
Speaker B:You praise them, praise them.
Speaker B:And then, and then I teach them to praise themselves, to honor themselves with that step that they did because.
Speaker B:And there comes the courage, because then the next time you build upon that first set of confidence and, and then to write it down, because then you can go back to it, because when you encounter something else in life that, oh, my gosh, I need the confidence to do this, or the courage.
Speaker B:You, you have a, A notebook full of, of action steps that you took that took confidence and courage to overcome.
Speaker B:And you can say, well, I did that before.
Speaker B:I.
Speaker B:I can do this too.
Speaker A:Yeah, you've brought, You've.
Speaker A:You've consciously created new evidence to help support why you're able to do bigger.
Speaker A:I like to say more expansive things as well.
Speaker A:You know, I think as we.
Speaker A:It's funny, I have some clients who are like, I had that breakthrough.
Speaker A:Like, why is it coming up again?
Speaker A:Like, well, you're growing.
Speaker A:And as we grow, we grow so far.
Speaker A:And then we, Like a snake, we need to shed our skin so we can grow again.
Speaker A:Right?
Speaker A:And we can become more vibrant.
Speaker A:And, you know, it's.
Speaker A:It can be.
Speaker B:It.
Speaker A:It's an act.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:It's.
Speaker A:How do I practice it?
Speaker A:How do I know it's happening again?
Speaker A:Where maybe my mind is leading me off the road in a direction away from what I want.
Speaker A:And then once I observe it now, I can take action.
Speaker A:And I love what you said.
Speaker A:They have a notebook of things that they did.
Speaker A:I like to call that their secret sauce to success.
Speaker A:Like you all have a secret sauce to success.
Speaker A:You have it right now.
Speaker A:You just don't even realize you have it.
Speaker A:You know, what were those things that you did that got you that last result?
Speaker A:Okay, great.
Speaker A:Now let's bring it forward again.
Speaker A:Let's apply it in a new context.
Speaker A:Let's try it here in your life.
Speaker A:And it's really amazing to me when people start realizing that they know what to do.
Speaker A:A coach's job, A coach's job to me is to help guide them to become that version of themselves.
Speaker A:That is confidence, that is confident, that can, that can operate, you know, on their own in a more success.
Speaker A:I'll just say a more successful way.
Speaker A:And I, I, I love, I love that about coaching.
Speaker A:And I think that some people think coaches tell people what to do where it's not really like that.
Speaker A:It's not really like that at all because they every.
Speaker A:Will, you know, I mean, and it's.
Speaker B:A, it's a collaborative effort.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Between two people and, and, and drawing out their strengths and having them build that success within them to give them the power.
Speaker B:Because, you know, as a consultant, a consultant will, There's a difference between consulting and coaching.
Speaker B:A consultant will tell you what.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:What to do.
Speaker B:Whereas coaching, it's, you're coaching them the power within them to bring that out, because that's where that confidence comes from when they, when they do it themselves.
Speaker B:And I know that was so true with me.
Speaker B:I wanted, can you just give me the answers?
Speaker B:And I don't have you?
Speaker B:No.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:But, you know, I am so glad that it, it took, it took time, it took work, it gave.
Speaker B:Took tenacity to do this and everything worthwhile.
Speaker B:There's always a price to pay for success, no matter what.
Speaker B:And so in order, it's, it's like if you go to law school, you have to pay the price of going three, four years.
Speaker B:Or if it's a specialized area of law, you give up time.
Speaker B:And, and, and there's a lot of work involved with that internship.
Speaker B:Same thing with, if you're going to be a doctor, you're a price to pay.
Speaker B:You just don't say, I'm a doctor.
Speaker B:You know, you, you go through all of those schooling needs to learn what you need to learn.
Speaker B:And if it's a specialized area, you know, there's there that may require more schooling.
Speaker B:And so when we think of coaching, it's with our clients, it's not any different.
Speaker B:In, in fact, I, I, I just for me, I thought, well, I'm not a lawyer and I'm not a doctor.
Speaker B:That would be like, okay.
Speaker B:But for me, coaching, it's just a shift in your mindset.
Speaker B:And, and, and I call them the aha moments.
Speaker B:Because when you have an aha moment, that means you had a breakthrough moment.
Speaker B:And I will tell you, once you get those aha moments going, you don't go back because now you see things differently.
Speaker B:And then you'll end up saying, how did I ever manage before?
Speaker B:And coaching is so, so vital.
Speaker B:You know, it's just, it's a gift that I believe that coaches give to their clients.
Speaker B:We have a gift to give to them.
Speaker B:And, you know, it is a powerful gift.
Speaker B:And I love all my clients.
Speaker B:I always want the best for them.
Speaker B:I want to bring out the best in them, as I know many other coaches do.
Speaker B:And above all, having integrity with.
Speaker B:And you know, if somebody's traveling down the wrong path, you know, you can, you can, you know, point that out and then just divert a little bit.
Speaker B:But coaching is phenomenal, you know, in scripture, not sure which scripture, but because there's so many that rattle around in my head.
Speaker B:But you know, we are to be encouragers of one another.
Speaker B:We are, that is what we're called to do.
Speaker B:And that's why I love coaching.
Speaker B:Because I, I just that my coaching was God inspired to me to be able to take what I learned, the journey that I went through, my experiences, and that I can take this coaching experience and give that to other people so that they can have the same breakthroughs and have a more phenomenal, fulfilling and successful life, whatever that may look like to them.
Speaker A:You know, I, I wanna point out something too, because I, I love how you're quoting, you know, scripture and how you're, you're bringing your faith alive in your coaching.
Speaker A:So there's lots of different kinds of coaches out there.
Speaker A:You know, though I might not bring scripture alive in my coaching, you know, I just wanted to kind of point it out and say, if you're a Christian base and you're listening to this right now, and scripture is something that really inspires you, Sharon would be a great person to talk to.
Speaker A:You know, and one of the things that I learned too, just in reading, I've, I've, I've been working on reading the Bible.
Speaker A:And I've always been so shocked in.
Speaker A:And not just, not just, you know, in the Bible, but it's all of these different ideas, you know, that we bring forward in coaching and that I hear, you know, from all the bigs, you know, you know, on YouTube and blah, blah, blah, blah.
Speaker A:A lot of it does start there.
Speaker A:Now, you can certainly be listening to this and take what you want and leave the rest.
Speaker A:I'm not here to push people's beliefs in one way or another, but I do want to open up the door to when you hire a coach, make sure they believe a hundred percent in, in what they're doing.
Speaker A:You know, one of the things that I found, one of the things that I found, you know, just being out there as an entrepreneur and as a coach.
Speaker A:I coach a lot of sales.
Speaker A:I coach a lot of people to advance their sales, particularly in things they really love.
Speaker A:You know, if you, if you just want to hustle and get more sales, I'm probably not a good coach for you.
Speaker A:You know, I could show you how to do it, but I'm not going to be sparked into that.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:But if somebody's out there and they really love what they do and they want to make a business out of it and they want to monetize and they want to still live their life and be happy, like, that's, that's what courageous destiny is all about.
Speaker A:And I've just found over the years that when you're hiring a coach, make sure you're interviewing and that your values line up.
Speaker A:Make sure that you're interviewing them and they.
Speaker A:You feel confident that you can trust them, that you're.
Speaker A:That you're going to go into the coaching relationship, or open is if you do that and you, you're with somebody that you're trust and you can be open with that person, there's nothing that a really great coach can't coach you to.
Speaker A:Would you agree with that?
Speaker B:I do agree with that because that I, the people that the coaches and mentors that I've had, I trusted them completely because you know what?
Speaker B:They walked their talk.
Speaker B:And that was so important to me, and that's what I learned to do.
Speaker B:You walk your talk of integrity and, you know, integrity, I think is a lost word today in society.
Speaker B:Some people don't even know what it means anymore, but it's doing what you say you're going to do.
Speaker A:And even when nobody's watching.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:Return the grocery cart.
Speaker B:Oh, did you drop this?
Speaker B:Pick it up and put it Back.
Speaker A:You can't see my face right now because I'm on audio, but I had some, I saw somebody at Home Depot do that the other day and their cart rolled right into somebody else.
Speaker A:And I'm going, are you kidding me?
Speaker A:Right?
Speaker A:And I'm like.
Speaker A:And that's that integrity piece.
Speaker A:Do what's right.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Yeah, right.
Speaker B:And you know, if, if, you know, another piece of integrity is if you say you're going to call somebody back or whatever, do it.
Speaker B:Yeah, do it.
Speaker B:Don't, don't ghost them, don't leave them hanging because you know what they, they feel then that you don't care.
Speaker B:That sends a message saying I don't.
Speaker B:You, I don't care.
Speaker B:I didn't care enough to take the time to call you back.
Speaker B:You know, and that's part of an integrity and integr.
Speaker B:Integrity in coaching is also, you know, leading people in the, in the right direction because they, they may be so wired in not feeling good about themselves and they continue to go down that path and you have to, with, with coaching, you gently nudge them in the opposite direction and you have to be able to speak up and say this is, this is what is happening.
Speaker B:When I hear this from you or whatever it is, let's expound on it or whatever the issue is.
Speaker B:And I think that's important because the coach and the client relationship is a two way street.
Speaker B:You want people to be honest with you and you want to be honest with them as well.
Speaker B:So important in order to make progress for the final outcome.
Speaker A:I can't agree more.
Speaker A:You know, one of one of my programs is courageous destiny.
Speaker A:B.
Speaker A:Be your courageous destiny.
Speaker A:Now my I, I talk a lot about be your sales success now as well.
Speaker A:And one of the things, the number one thing, if you want your sales to go up, if you want your relationships to be better, if you want to lose, you know, drop some pounds and become healthy like all of those things.
Speaker A:It's honesty.
Speaker A:It's honesty with yourself.
Speaker A:It's honesty with.
Speaker A:If you don't want to be salesy with people and you don't want to sound like you're some quote unquote used car salesman.
Speaker A:Sorry to the used car salesman that are out there right now that are really great people and do a great job.
Speaker A:But, but if you're honest, if you're a hundred percent honest with yourself, if you're 100 honest with other people, let the chips fall where they may.
Speaker B:Right?
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:And then, you know, so important.
Speaker B:Yes it is.
Speaker B:And you know, one of the Things is, we're all on.
Speaker B:On this planet.
Speaker B:We're all on our journey.
Speaker B:We're all on the journey at different points, different paths.
Speaker B:You know, somebody may be here, another person may be here.
Speaker B:And the thing of it is, you have to honor where they're at, meet people where they're at.
Speaker B:They may not know what you know, and vice versa, et cetera, et cetera, because of the journey or the path that they're on.
Speaker B:They may not even be ready for something new.
Speaker B:They're still working on xyz.
Speaker B:And, you know, there was a quote, and I don't know who to give the credit to, is the teacher will appear when the student is ready.
Speaker B:I think that's how that quote.
Speaker A:I think it is too.
Speaker A:I've heard that too.
Speaker A:I don't know who it is, but it's.
Speaker A:I find that to be very true.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And so when somebody is ready for it, they're gonna say, hey, I want to learn this.
Speaker B:And, you know, if they're not ready, it's okay.
Speaker B:Just God bless you and, and, and move on.
Speaker B:And, you know, you just always give encouraging words to people because the people, People remember those things.
Speaker B:You may not think of it.
Speaker B:Maybe they're having a bad day or whatever.
Speaker B:And, and if you're kind to them, you know what people are going to remember that they may never see you again or whatever.
Speaker B:I, I have to share this.
Speaker B:This is a great story.
Speaker B:And I know he won't mind me sharing it.
Speaker B:It's my pastor.
Speaker B:Jeff forgot the story.
Speaker B:But every time I drive by an office supply store, he was, He.
Speaker B:He's conscious of how he spends his money.
Speaker B:And, you know, if there's a sale or whatever, he's okay with it.
Speaker B:So he goes to the office supply store with his daughter.
Speaker B:And so I think the, the ad or something said one price.
Speaker B:And so he, The.
Speaker B:The clerk wasn't giving him what he wanted, so he was kind of nasty with her.
Speaker B:This is a pastor.
Speaker B:I'm thinking, see, we're all human.
Speaker B:So he gets back in the car with his daughter, and his daughter says to.
Speaker B:To him, dad, you weren't real nice to her.
Speaker B:And he sat there for a moment in silence and he said, you know, you.
Speaker B:You know, honey, you're right.
Speaker B:Let's go back in.
Speaker B:He took his daughter back in.
Speaker B:He went to that clerk and apologized.
Speaker B:Never forgot that story.
Speaker B:First of all, that is a sermon in action, not just words.
Speaker B:And what a lesson for his daughter to see as well.
Speaker B:And, and because it also reminds me of the Kick the cat story.
Speaker B:Like, okay, I'm going to take out my frustration on you.
Speaker B:So then you take you the, on the clerk or whoever, whoever it is.
Speaker B:And then now they're in a nasty mindset.
Speaker B:They're going to kick the cat to somebody else, you know, so stop that.
Speaker A:Well, and that's integrity in action too.
Speaker A:Like, and that's walking your talk.
Speaker A:He's a pastor, right?
Speaker A:But that's, that stands for each and every one of us.
Speaker A:You know, I had a similar situation where I called.
Speaker A:I don't remember who I was talking to, but I was talking to somebody on the phone and I got mean and I got off the phone and I'm like, nothing feels right about my body or anything right now.
Speaker A:Like, I felt so awful.
Speaker A:And I'm like, I gotta call her back.
Speaker A:And I called her back and I had to wait on hold for a long time to get her back.
Speaker A:And I'm like, I am so sorry.
Speaker A:You do not deserv to be treated that way.
Speaker A:And I don't think it's, you know, I think that integrity in action is so important.
Speaker A:And, you know, I thank you for sharing that story because it's not about being perfect people, because we're not perfect people.
Speaker A:We're.
Speaker A:We're human beings and we're not, we're actually not designed to be perfect.
Speaker A:But when we find that we aren't being, or we find that something's not lined up with us, it's really great to resolve it.
Speaker A:And that's integrity.
Speaker A:And if you ever want to advance your results right away in anything, go check out your integrity.
Speaker A:Start elevating.
Speaker B:Yes, I couldn't agree with you more on, on that because like, as I said earlier, it's almost a lost virtue, so to speak, in the world today.
Speaker B:And people really do appreciate it when somebody comes forth and they're honest and have integrity and they remember those things.
Speaker B:And it's, it's to me, a lesson in life that this is how we need to treat each other.
Speaker B:And, you know, the clerks in the stores or whatever, they didn't write the policies or, you know, anything like that.
Speaker B:And so many times if I'm frustrated, I'll just say, I know you didn't write the policies, corporate or whatever because.
Speaker A:We'Re in a hurry or we're frustrated because we're, you know, we need to move on to something else or frustrated because, you know, whatever million and one reasons we could give it.
Speaker A:And it just always pays to be, to add and infuse integrity into what you do?
Speaker B:Yes, Yes.
Speaker A:I think we could talk for a long time, and we're starting to wrap up our time together on the show, but I would love to ask you two questions.
Speaker A:So one question is, what is the most courageous thing you've ever done?
Speaker B:Courageous thing I ever did was.
Speaker B:And this involves integrity.
Speaker B:When, when there was unethical behavior and I had to report it, and I was terrified, but I knew I did the right thing.
Speaker B:And because again, I relied back on my faith, and it was, it was so vital that I did that.
Speaker B:And I had the support of people and pastors, you know, that I did the right thing.
Speaker B:And as terrifying as it was, I just mustered up the faith.
Speaker B:The faith and the courage to do that.
Speaker B:And I.
Speaker B:And I think because I have done that in smaller things, of having to be courageous in life, taking that step of faith, taking just that leap of faith.
Speaker B:Faith is just a bridge, you know, to stepping forward in courage.
Speaker B:I was able to, to do that, and I tell you, was a freeing experience.
Speaker B:Saying, look, it didn't hurt.
Speaker B:You did it.
Speaker B:You did the right thing.
Speaker B:The right thing was done.
Speaker A:Very good.
Speaker A:Very good.
Speaker A:And then one more question.
Speaker A:What is the most courageous thing left on your bucket list to do, at least in this season?
Speaker B:In this season?
Speaker B:The most courageous thing on my bucket list.
Speaker B:Oh, my gosh.
Speaker B:Well, I know next week I'm going to Gulf Shores, Alabama.
Speaker B:That was on my bucket list.
Speaker B:I don't know how courageous that would be, but in terms of, you know what, this is a big goal, big jump.
Speaker B:Being courageous.
Speaker B:I know I can do it.
Speaker B:A national speaker.
Speaker A:Yay.
Speaker A:Oh, Sharon.
Speaker A:We're going to talk about that.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:We're gonna be accountability partners for that.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker B:A national speaker.
Speaker B:Because I, I, there's a lot in me and a voice that I know that, that can resonate and help other people out there.
Speaker A:And I think that's so true just in having this conversation with you today.
Speaker A:Amazing Grace, you're very graceful.
Speaker A:You're such a.
Speaker A:Just a beautiful person inside and out, you know, And I definitely want to thank you for coming on my show today.
Speaker A:I'd like to share with my listeners that if you go to the show notes, and you are, you loved listening to Sharon and you love some of the conversations today.
Speaker A:There will be a link that you can connect to Sharon and you can contact her that way, and I want to encourage you to do so.
Speaker A:She's an amazing coach and an amazing human, and I also wanted to give you the opportunity.
Speaker A:Is there any final words of wisdom that you would like to share with the listeners today?
Speaker A:Share with our listeners today?
Speaker B:Yeah, I would.
Speaker B:I, you know, I, I, when I talk about coaching, I get excited.
Speaker B:It's just, it gets in you and you know, the, the journey and you know, the transformation and you know that you have, have overcome things and have, have coaching has made your life better.
Speaker B:And I would say to, to the listeners out there, you know, do take that leap of faith.
Speaker B:Invest in yourself.
Speaker B:You are so worth it.
Speaker B:You know, I like that phrase that says a diamond in the rough, you know, a piece of coal and you, you polish it and you know, you come out being a diamond.
Speaker B:Well, you, that's what you are already.
Speaker B:It's all within you and, and all you got to do is just take that leap forward and allow yourself to trust a coach that's going to take you upwards and overcome all of perhaps the lies we tell ourselves or how do I get from point A to point B?
Speaker B:It is so, so worth it.
Speaker B:I am so glad I've, I've done all the work that I've done on myself and continue to do so.
Speaker B:I, and, and from doing so, the amazing amount of people that I have met, great people as a result of that from, from just taking a turn on my mindset and a whole new world has opened up for me.
Speaker A:Oh, well, thank you so much for sharing and to all of our listeners out there today, I'm going to let you go.
Speaker A:But until next time, be courageous.
